🌿 When Hate Rises: A Gentle Practice to Come Home to Yourself

By Michiko Kobayashi | Life Coach

As a life coach and fellow human person, I’ve come across many who carry heavy emotional burdens—some even describe it as hate. And while the word itself can feel harsh, I’ve learned not to turn away from it. Not to be afraid of it. Because I know this:

🌸 Hate is often not the root—it’s a symptom.

Beneath hate is usually pain, fear, or a sense of powerlessness.Hate can feel like a shield—something to hold onto when someone feels unseen, unheard, or deeply threatened.

And so, healing doesn’t start with judgment. It begins with compassion.Not condoning—but understanding.

🌊 A Truth We Must Remember

Time alone doesn’t heal all wounds. Especially when it comes to deep traumas and heartaches.

All the feelings and emotions we’ve suppressed or avoided—they don’t vanish. They stay alive within us. Sometimes they show up as quick tempers or emotional shutdowns. And often, they live in the body—stored as energy.

This is why healing is not just about talking. It’s about remembering what the body, the heart, and the soul already know.

When someone reacts with hate or intensity, it doesn’t always mean they’re just angry. It could mean something old is asking to be seen, felt, and released.

The soul is always inviting us back to wholeness. And it’s never too late to begin.

✨ A Simple Yet Profound 3-Step Remedy for Transforming Hate

Whether you're navigating your own intense emotions, or supporting someone you care about, here is a practice you can offer—or try for yourself:

1. Name It, Without Shame

Encourage them—or yourself—to say:

“I feel hate right now. I may not like this feeling, but I will not shame myself for having it.”

Naming it loosens its grip.Shame only makes it stronger.Awareness is the beginning of transformation.

2. Breathe Into the Body

Hate is not just mental—it lives in the body as energy.

Invite a pause. Place a hand on the chest or belly.Take three deep, slow breaths—in through the nose, out through the mouth.

Ask gently:

“Where do you feel this in your body?”

This helps break the cycle of spiraling thoughts.It reconnects us to presence.

3. Ask the Soul a Deeper Question

Once the energy begins to settle, gently guide the inquiry:

“What am I really feeling beneath this hate?”“What part of me is trying to be protected right now?”

This question isn’t meant to “fix” the feeling.It opens a doorway from reactive identity to inner truth.

💡 Quick Daily Practice

Offer this statement as a grounding tool:

“When I feel hate rising, I will pause and say to myself:‘I choose to understand before I react.’”

Even if full understanding hasn’t arrived, this simple choice creates a new energetic tone.

🌸 If You’re Supporting Someone You Love...

Your presence matters more than your advice.

You don’t have to fix them.You don’t have to have the answers.You can simply reflect back:

“I hear how strong that feeling is.Let’s see what it might be trying to protect.”

That kind of non-judgmental holding can be the most healing force in the world.

🕊️ A Closing Reflection

You are not your worst emotion. You are not what you hate. You are the one who sees it, feels it, and has the courage to come back to yourself—again and again.

This is the real work. Not perfection. But presence.

And it’s the deepest kind of liberation.

With care and devotion, Michiko

Your life is sacred. Every feeling is welcome here.